I love coffee. I love everything coffee. My favorite place to catch up with friends and solve all of the world problems is at Bean Towne, a local coffee house and cafe. The lattes, sandwiches, salads, and assorted gluten free products are out of this world and if you are lucky enough to have Sparky whip up your latte, you also enjoy a smile that will keep you warm all day. I don’t work for or with the folks at Bean Towne. This blog post doesn’t even have anything to do with them or coffee except that it is where most of my best conversations (other than the one’s that happen in my car) take place.
One day last week, I met a friend at Bean Towne for a late afternoon latte. We try to get together at least once a week; we are concerned that if we go any longer between visits, the worlds problems could grow out of control and we may not be able to solve them all in one sitting. Our conversation took many paths, as it often does, and we soon found ourselves on the subject of marriage and why some make it, why some don’t, and what we think the key ingredients might be that help to keep one going for the long haul. I have been married for 32 years (in April) and one of the things that my husband and I do so well together is dream. We make some fairly large scale plans and have some fairly lofty dreams, we always have. We dream about where we will go on our next vacation, how we will retire and we dream about little things like what we will have for dinner or what we might share for dessert. We never stop dreaming. We often share our dreams, hopes, plans, and schemes with our daughter, with our friends, and sometimes even with the lady at the post office or the guy that bags our groceries. I am sure that we drive people a little crazy with all of our dreaming.
Our dreams have changed over the years and some of the one’s that we had when we were much younger came to fruition. Many of them did not. We don’t look back upon the dreams that didn’t become reality, we know that they morphed into new dreams. I don’t know what we would do without our dreams, schemes, and plans; they keep us joyful and united. Our dreams are a common goal, a sense of togetherness, a joint effort and a constant topic of conversation. Dreaming is fun, it’s free, and it helps us to realize a never ending sense of hope and adventure.
People that allow themselves to dream and cultivate the dreams of others, they are the salt of the earth. To encourage a dream can lead to creativity and greatness and there really is no better way to show love and gratitude for another human being than to help them reach their dreams. We all have an inner child that has not forgotten how to dream; we just have to let go and allow them to have our hearts and minds every now and again.
Couples that dream together always have something in common, something to talk about and something to look forward to. Dream a little dream together. Start with something fun and silly or something big and serious. It doesn’t matter as long as your dreaming.
There is nothing like a dream to create the future.
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