Attention!

Attention, Attention!  Do I have your attention?  Where is your attention?  Wherever your attention is, that too is where your power lies.  The thing which you focus on, vacillate over, agonize about, and turn over and over in your mind has your power.  So, be aware of where you allow your mind to travel and what you spend your time thinking about and what you go about setting your attention on.  Do you want to give fear, anxiety, debt, worry, etc. your power?

I know that I have spent a great deal of time in my life handing my power over to other people; I gave them a great deal of my attention and so a great deal of my power.  So many things came of doing that; so many undesirable things.  It is important to constantly check in with who we are giving our attention to.  Does the attention that we give to that person or persons empower us?  Sometimes a person has our attention because it is like looking in a mirror; we see the habits, behaviors, etc. (in this other person) that we truly do not like about ourselves.  Give yourself and the poor, unsuspecting person a break; recognize and embrace your feelings and then make the choice to work on those behaviors that you see as negative.  Bring your attention to the positive changes that you are making.

To bring our power home; back to our center, we must bring out attention home.  We must bring our attention back to the center.  This is a very simple and easy thing to do; it only requires a bit of practice and consistency. To truly regain our power, we need only to bring our focus and attention back to the moment; to whatever it is that we are doing right now.  For example, if you are reading a book, bring your focus to the words on the page and the intention of the author; be aware when your mind wanders off and re-focus. In this modern day of technology, our attention is so scattered.  Our attention is like confetti that has been cast into the wind; it is spread out all over the place.  Gather your attention and you are re-gathering your power.

“If you can change your mind, you can change your life.” -William James

We are in a time when being in alignment with our highest and truest self is essential. The distractions of the Coronavirus and all of the changes, fear, etc. that it is creating are a challenge for keeping our center. The BEST way to find and keep balance and maintain our power is to spend time in nature. Get outdoors. Not only do we restore our own power and gain balance from the trees, birds, grass, insects, plants, etc. but we also help to keep our immune system strong and healthy. https://medium.com/@ra.hobday/coronavirus-and-the-sun-a-lesson-from-the-1918-influenza-pandemic-509151dc8065

Bring your attention to the trees, the sky, a bird. Feel the fresh air clear your lungs and your mind. With each moment that you are focused on nature and your own true essence, you are restoring your power. You are healing and building your own immune system. It is so simple and we have everything that we need to do it. No prescription necessary.

We will get through this crisis. How we each get through it also determines how we all get through it together. If we individually are in awareness and in control of where we allow our attention to be, we are contributing to the overall sense of calm, unity, and hope that we need to manage this journey together. Thank you for collaborating with me to create a collective that is focused on unity consciousness and the beautiful way that we are all in this together and creating hope and joy where there is fear and illness.

Thank you for your attention.

Release-Channeled Guidance

CG-Each day presents a new opportunity to release, to release matter.  The release of this day does not need to appear profound or epic for it to have long term and profound impact on our lives. Think about the stars, supernovas; not every release is so profound as another and yet the release is still taking place.  The effect is lasting.

CG-Do what you will with the release of this day; the action upon this release is for this day.

CG-Choosing to retain the memory of this day and the sense of peace that has come as a result of the release can be maintained in the heart, in the cells; an action that has long term effect.

“Each day presents a new opportunity to release”

Wow!  This guidance is packed with so much!  It is powerful, thought provoking and I am sure that if I ever have full comprehension and understanding, has the power to change my life.  I have been off and on contemplating, studying, and mulling it since October.  I will share with you now what I have come to understand so far.

Let me begin with the first line- Each day presents a new opportunity to release-matter.

  • Release-definition:  allow or enable to escape from confinement, set free.  Allow (something) to move, act, or flow freely
  • Matter- Scientific definition:  matter is everything around you.  Atoms and molecules are all composed of matter.  Matter is defined as anything that has mass and takes up space.
  • Matter- Merriam Webster definition:  matter:  a subject under consideration, a subject of disagreement or litigation.  The events or circumstances of a particular situation.  ie:  planned to discuss matters with her husband soon.

Indeed!  I can confirm with absolute certainty that each day does in fact present an opportunity for me to release.  I am constantly striving to release objects that have mass and take up space in an attempt to organize and de-clutter my home.  I am also frequently presented with opportunities to release matters that are under consideration or that are a subject of disagreement; just yesterday, I was presented with the opportunity to release matter surrounding sheet rock dust!

When I think about this from the prospective of healing, I think about all of the ways that our bodies are releasing from one moment to another. The liver and kidneys performing the detoxification process for instance. Truly amazing really.

The second sentence:   The release of this day does not need to appear profound or epic for it to have long term and profound impact on our lives.

  • The release of this day:  each day has it’s own release.  Again the opportunity for release is presented each day.
  • does not need to appear or seem profound or epic for the release to have an impact:  what I am learning from this is that even if we can only release or transcend an experience for a moment, that momentary release has an affect.  There is a shift.

The third sentence:   Think about the stars, supernovas; not every release is so profound as another and yet the release is still taking place.  The effect is lasting.

  • Stars, Supernovas:  A star that suddenly increases greatly in brightness because of a catastrophic explosion that ejects most of its mass.
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  • A nova is also the explosion of a star, but a supernova has more energy.

Catastrophic explosion! How many times have you experienced a release- say of anger, that felt like a catastrophic explosion. Perhaps you have been at the receiving end of another persons release of anger and felt like you were in the line of fire? Or perhaps, you have been at the receiving end of an explosion of love. Have you felt the outpouring of love from someone that causes you to feel so encompassed and embraced that it feels as though your heart will burst with the joy of it?

So, there is the nova type release and the supernova type release. It is all about the energy, vibration, and awareness of the release. If there is not awareness in the release, it can have catastrophic impact; we can harm ourselves or others by blowing up or not being mindful of our words, etc. We can also enjoy great benefits from a release that is done in conscious awareness. The relief of letting go of anger, frustration, guilt, hurt, anxiety, fear, etc. is immeasurable and the benefits can be equally as profound.

The closing of this guidance begins with the word choosing. We make a choice. We decide to retain a memory. This really has caused me to launch into another whole area of exploration. It is true, we make the choice to remember or retain information when we are preparing for a test or any number of things. We also retain memories of experience, people, places, etc. Do we make a conscious choice to remember these things? Can we make a conscious choice not to retain those experience? This is a topic for another day but it could be really fun to experiment with consciously choosing to remember or not.

To choose to retain the peace that has come as a result of the release (we will use anger as an example) of this day can be maintained in the heart and cells and can create a long term impact. We can look at this from both a positive and a non beneficial standpoint. To retain the peace of releasing anger and hold it in our hearts or to hold or maintain anger in the heart will eventually impact us at a cellular level. The choice being made is either toward healing or illness; when we choose to hold anger in our heart, we are making a choice to gamble with our health and risk becoming ill or the choice can be made to potentially heal by releasing anger and holding love in our heart. The long term effect can be so profound as to cause complete healing. When we heal our emotional heart and become centered on love, we begin the process of healing the physical body.

Here is a great info graph that shows the impact anger has and how it impacts us at the cellular level: https://www.iahe.com/docs/articles/nicabm-anger-infographic-printable-pdf.pdf

There are many ways that we can go about releasing. The obvious purging of unused and unneeded matter- the exercise bike in the corner of the bedroom that has become a clothing rack for example or the cat climbing tower in the garage that hasn’t been used since you last had a cat in 1992. The release of memories, experiences, emotions, etc. can be a little more challenging and may require a greater commitment of time, self love, and mindfulness. Meditation, exercise, therapy, spiritual counsel, etc. can all be of great benefit. Often, just having a safe, sacred place with a kind and loving witness can be all that we need to free ourselves from the undesired impact of some emotions and memories. No matter how you choose to release, begin now and honor your spirit, mind, and body with love and kindness.

Our Connection to Mom

In six days, it will be one year since my mother transitioned on and left this world. In many ways, it feels like it was a life time ago that she and I had our last conversation, and in other ways, I am still in disbelief that she is really gone.

I have experienced other, very close and loved family members and friends passing on. It is painful, sad, and difficult. Losing my Mother has been different, much more intense, profound, and heartbreaking.

There is a connection to our mother that is like no other connection. We begin with the super cool fact that your mother carried the egg cells which may one day be fertilized and grow into her own grandchild. I know!! A bit of a brain twister! Every woman is born with all her eggs already inside her ovaries. You can have as many as seven million eggs in your ovaries at birth and those eggs will be released every menstrual cycle throughout your (fertile) lifetime. What this means is because you are born with all of your eggs, your eggs were once inside of your mother when you were a fetus in her womb.

If we approach this from an energetic perspective, the connection can be realized as extremely impactful. As an egg cell, we were already connected to our mother through our grandmother. We experience our mothers life with her as an egg in her ovaries. There is a connection to our mother like no other relationship. It is a scientific fact. As we know through thermodynamics, energy cannot be created nor destroyed. It simply changes states. The total amount of energy in an isolated system does not, cannot, change. And thanks to Einstein, we also know that matter and energy are two rungs on the same ladder. Full Article here: https://futurism.com/the-physics-of-death

We have been through a lot with our mother before we are even born! Is it any wonder that we have such a deep bond with her? Whether the relationship is beautiful, loving, difficult or strained, there is a connectedness like no other. A strand that connects us long after the umbilical cord has been cut, the one that began before the umbilical cord was needed or formed.

Emotionally, It takes effort for me to be comforted by the understanding that my mothers energy is all around me. I want to talk with her, to text her about the silly thing that one of her grand dogs did today or share our heart for my daughter/her granddaughter. I sense when she is close because my heart hurts and I cry; it is the heart connection-my heart feels her nearby and there is a pull on my heart strings. The memories, photos, and spending time with my family help to ease the pain of Mom not sitting next to me- in the flesh. Her energy, love, and presence in my life in her spirit form remind me that we are all a part of everything around us. We will one day-as Mom is now, be in every whisper of the wind, every blade of grass, and every star in the sky. It reminds me that my connection to her and hers to me is eternal and unbreakable. It is forever.

Time

When I was 15, I couldn’t wait to be 18.  I remember daydreaming about what I would do if the day ever came that I actually had my 18th birthday.  I mean, time just seemed to go so slow.  I was sure that I was destined to be 15 forever, tormented by my mother; she was obviously trying to ruin my life. Teachers, and most other adults; except my grandmother, she was much too cool and awesome to annoy me, were all trying to ruin my life! I was sure that time had completely stopped.  I was stuck in some kind of neutral time machine.

Fast forward to somewhere in my thirties(ish) .  Time began to quicken.  I started to notice little things, like the way that a little extra fluff wanted to stay around my mid section; I know, this doesn’t actually have anything to do with time butdid notice it and it was definitely annoying!   Our daughter was born, and then BAM!  She was graduating from high school.  I remember begging her to slow down and just enjoy being a child, I remember emploring her not to rush into adulthood; with it came responsibility and the expectation for her to actually give up childish behaviors.  I remember telling her that once you’re there (adulthood), you cannot turn back.  She grew up anyway.  I keep meaning to ask her what she thinks about the whole thing now?

Do you remember overhearing adults having conversations about the changes in youth today, or current events, and thinking to yourself “boy, I hope I never get that old”.  They would talk about how we were all going to break our necks in those silly bell bottom pants, or how salacious our dance moves were.  The thoughts that adults have about youth of the times is always connected to the past.  Fascinating.  It is as though their childhood was only just yesterday.  Time just speeds by.  Time does just keep slipping, slipping, slipping, into the future- as the Steven Miller Band song Fly Like an Eagle (released in 1976) says.

I am working to truly live in the no time, no space;  I strive to live in the moment.  Mindful walking,  trying to hold my thoughts only on the present.  Trying not to judge “the youth of today”.  It truly takes a great deal of intention, effort, and patience to stay in the moment.  I have found that in the moments that I allow my mind to wander into the worries of the future; especially with all that is currently going on in our country, our world, I am overcome with fear.  In thinking about this, I also realized that when I am filled with fear, I am vulnerable to being easily influenced by that which promotes itself as comfort.  My ability to make clear, reasonable and solid choices is absolutely non existent when I am acting in fear.  It is fascinating to realize that this is just a microscopic “blip” on the radar of existence.

“Don’t Look Back, Your Not Going That Way”

Mary Engelbreit

My guides say this-

Time is irrelevant. Fear is robbery. All balance comes from being in connection with one’s highest self. When we are in true balance, time, fear, anxiety, and worries do not have power. The joy of being in balance and harmony leaves no space for nonsense.

Enjoy the now!

Keep Dreaming

I love coffee.  I love everything coffee.  My favorite place to catch up with friends and solve all of the world problems is at Bean Towne, a local coffee house and cafe.  The lattes, sandwiches, salads, and assorted gluten free products are out of this world and if you are lucky enough to have Sparky whip up your latte, you also enjoy a smile that will keep you warm all day.  I don’t work for or with the folks at Bean Towne.  This blog post doesn’t even have anything to do with them or coffee except that it is where most of my best conversations (other than the one’s that happen in my car) take place.

One day last week, I met a friend at Bean Towne for a late afternoon latte.  We try to get together at least once a week; we are concerned that if we go any longer between visits, the worlds problems could grow out of control and we may not be able to solve them all in one sitting.  Our conversation took many paths, as it often does, and we soon found ourselves on the subject of marriage and why some make it, why some don’t, and what we think the key ingredients might be that help to keep one going for the long haul.  I have been married for 32 years (in April) and one of the things that my husband and I do so well together is dream.  We make some fairly large scale plans and have some fairly lofty dreams, we always have.  We dream about where we will go on our next vacation, how we will retire and we dream about little things like what we will have for dinner or what we might share for dessert.  We never stop dreaming.  We often share our dreams, hopes, plans, and schemes with our daughter, with our friends, and sometimes even with the lady at the post office or the guy that bags our groceries.  I am sure that we drive people a little crazy with all of our dreaming.

Our dreams have changed over the years and some of the one’s that we had when we were much younger came to fruition.  Many of them did not.  We don’t look back upon the dreams that didn’t become reality, we know that they morphed into new dreams.  I don’t know what we would do without our dreams, schemes, and plans; they keep us joyful and united.  Our dreams are a common goal, a sense of togetherness, a joint effort and a constant topic of conversation.  Dreaming is fun, it’s free, and it helps us to realize a never ending sense of hope and adventure.

People that allow themselves to dream and cultivate the dreams of others, they are the salt of the earth.  To encourage a dream can lead to creativity and greatness and there really is no better way to show love and gratitude for another human being than to help them reach their dreams.  We all have an inner child that has not forgotten how to dream; we just have to let go and allow them to have our hearts and minds every now and again.

Couples that dream together always have something in common, something to talk about and something to look forward to.  Dream a little dream together.  Start with something fun and silly or something big and serious.  It doesn’t matter as long as your dreaming.

There is nothing like a dream to create the future.

-Victor Hugo

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